Grindr is deleting its 'ethnicity filter', but racism is still rife in online dating
Sexual racism is clearly linked to more general racist attitudes and beliefs, and while Grindr's decision to remove its ethnicity filter is welcome, its action is late and tokenistic, argues Gene Lim and Bronwyn Carlson.
Dating and hook-up service Grindr has announced its intention to remove the “ethnicity filter” from its popular app.
The controversial function allowed paying users to filter out prospective partners based on ethnicity labels such as “Asian”, “Black”, and “Latino”. Long criticised as racist, the filter also helped to create a culture where users were emboldened to express their racism.
Alongside other dating apps, Grindr has a reputation for sexual racism – the exclusion of potential partners based on race.
In 2017, Grindr tried to amend this perception with the “Kindr Grindr” initiative. This move banned the use of exclusionary language such as “No Asians” and “No Blacks” in user bios, and attempted to explain to users why these statements are harmful and unacceptable.
'Not into Asians'
One of us (Gene Lim) is researching how sexual racism impacts gay and bisexual Asian men in Australia. Grindr was repeatedly singled out by research participants as a site where they regularly experienced sexual racism – both in user bios, and interactions with others.
He says, “Send me a picture of your face”. I send him a picture of my face, and he says, “Oh, you’re an Indian. I’m sorry”. He then quickly blocked me.
– James, 28, Indian
Apps such as Grindr are also where many Asian men first encounter such instances of discrimination.
So many profiles had “not into Asians”, “not into this [or that]” … I was just so confused as to why that was. I was skinny, young, cute, and I thought that would be enough …
– Rob, 27, Cambodian
For many people of colour, this sends a message that their skin colour makes them unlovable and unwanted – something that has a negative impact on self-image and self-worth. One participant summarised how he was affected by these messages.
I feel like the bad fruit that nobody wants.
– Ted, 32, Vietnamese
The psychological impact of these experiences adds up in ways that these men carry with them outside of sex and dating. Even as some Asian men withdraw from the gay community to avoid sexual racism, the impacts of these experiences endure.
It scars you in a way that it affects you in [situations] beyond the gay community … it affects your whole life.
– Wayne, 25, Malaysian
These exclusionary practices are especially jarring in LGBTQ communities, which often style themselves as “found families”. Still, the experiences above represent only one dimension of how sexual racism affects the lives of people of colour.
Indistinguishable from general racism
One of us (Bronwyn Carlson) has studied sexual racism experienced by Indigenous Australians on apps including Tinder and Grindr. She found that for many Indigenous users, the vitriol often only comes when they disclose their Indigenous heritage, as their appearance is not always an initial basis for exclusion.
An interaction might progress with chatting, flirting, and often an intention to “hook up”, but once an Indigenous user reveals their ethnicity, the abuse flows. For Indigenous people, “sexual racism” is often indistinguishable from general racism.
The threat of these experiences always lurks in the background for Indigenous people navigating social media and dating apps. They reveal a deep-seated hatred of Aboriginal people that has little to do with physical characteristics, and much more to do with racist ideologies.
For gay Indigenous men, the potential for love, intimacy and pleasure on Grindr is always counterbalanced against the potential violence of racism.
Putting anti-racism front and centre
People who use dating apps develop their own ways of managing risk and safety, but platforms should also have a duty of care to users. Digital spaces and apps such as Grindr are important sites of connection, community, and friendship for LGBTIQ+ people, but they're also channels for hatred and bigotry.
Removing the ethnicity filter on Grindr is not a silver bullet that will end racism on the app – here in Australia or anywhere else. It’s a symbolic move, but a step in the right direction.
Getting rid of this feature signals to users that filtering partners based on ethnicity is not “just a preference”, but a form of marginalisation and exclusion. As research has shown, sexual racism is clearly linked to more general racist attitudes and beliefs.
Though Grindr’s action is late and tokenistic, it’s still a good move. But if Grindr and other online dating platforms want to become spaces where people of colour can express themselves and seek out intimacy and companionship, they must put anti-racism at the core of their policies and content moderation practices.
This article originally appeared on The Conversation, and was co-written with Bronwyn Carlson, Professor, Indigenous Studies, Macquarie University.
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